Lovers on a Park Bench
When lovers meet on a park bench, they rarely have a schedule. Sure, they may schedule to meet, during lunch, for example, but rarely do they pull out a calendar or a book and say, “According to our plan, dear it says we should discuss this subject today.” There’s no agenda for what should happen.
Instead, there are a number of factors that come into play for lovers on a park bench: the weather, the season, the length and health of the relationship, the frequency of their encounters, their individual personalities, to name a few.
But I think most importantly, lovers on a park bench are influenced by the events happening in their lives. If one has just received a promotion at work, there would be hugs, smiles and laughter. If another just lost a relative to death, you would see long periods of silence, blank stares….a head on a shoulder.
Upon the arrival of lovers, within a few moments there are important cues: a reluctant smile, a sustained hug, a look away, a carefree laugh…..it’s much like improvisatory theatre. Lovers can read the signs and seem to know how to adjust to the circumstances, to be there for each other and to create a meaningful moment together….if not, they may not be lovers for long.
It’s much same when you sit down to meet God on a park bench. Don’t let a devotional guide set the agenda. Feel the moment. Experience the real relationship. Be yourself…in the moment. Improvise. It’s OK to let events, your emotions and even the weather influence you. In fact, that’s why it’s a good idea wide variety of practices or recipes at your disposal so that you can select something that fits the moment. Be spontaneous. Be intuitive. Be creative. Be inventive. And with some practice you may begin to feel occasionally what God wants from you when you sit down as lovers on a park bench.